a VirtualTourist member from New York City asked on May 6, 2015
My wife and I are invited to a wedding of her friend. Both Bride & Groom are Vietnamese and are having a traditional wedding and reception. This is our first Vietnames wedding; we've been to Chinese, Korean and Indian weddings in the past.
Are there any rules to how guests should dress such as a particular color being inappropriate? As for gifts: my wife says money is traditional but I'm just checking to make sure.
My first impression is: Leave the color white to the bride and groom.
In the past I used to have a linen outfit for wearing in the tropics, but you do not mention if the wedding is in Vietnam or maybe elsewhere.
I spend a few weeks in Vietnam every year because of my job and wedding receptions there are more informal than in the neighboring countries in my experience.
Very little religious rituals involved, if any.
If you go to Cambodia for instance then there are many rituals, but it's not that common in Vietnam.
People usually just eat and drink and socialise and then turn on the karaoke machine once the eating is done.
Giving money as a present is the thing to do at a vietnamese wedding.
there is usually a box to put the envelope with the money in by the entrance.
I have never really noticed any specific colors and it's also different what the bride and the groom wear.
Some wear traditional white dress and suit, while others wear traditional vietnamese clothes that is more colorful.
There can of course be different traditions, especially if they belong to a minority group or a minority religion (Vietnam has many minorities)
The vietnamese who are catholic tend to have a little more religion involved than those who are buddhist for instance.
Talking white color, then this is mostly worn by young girls under 18 in Vietnam when it's something official.
And then by the bride of course, if she decides to be a white bride.
Two different ways of dressing up for bride and groom in Vietnam and two different ways of interacting
Thanks PJ! My wife would never dream of wearing white to a wedding...that's just bad taste. I just wanted to make sure that for example if she wore blue; it wasn't a bad luck color culturally.
Thanks Claus! We figured cash is King...They are Buddhist but not really religious.
Wow...fancy affair indeed. I think my wife is just going to ask her friend what the dress code is so we are not over or under dressed..plus we don't want to be packing tons of clothes.