Trip with husband

October is a great time of year to visit. The lodging options in particular were chosen to fit with your interest in golf and vineyards.
Lodging
Clifton Inn - excellent food, historic building, beautiful grounds
Keswick Hall and Golf Club - great food and golf on-premises, beautiful views
The Oakhurst Inn - convenient to UVA campus
Boar's Head Resort - between western vineyards and downtown
Omni Charlottesville Hotel - downtown location
Residence Inn Charlottesville Downtown - downtown location, new
The Inn at Court Square- good food, downtown location
Dining
C&O Restaurant - great food, great ambiance
Lampo Neapolitan Pizzeria - amazing and creative salads, apps and pizza
The Alley Light
Oakhart Social
Tavola- excellent Italian, no reservations
Mas- Spanish tapas
Petit Pois Restaurant- best for lunch, delicious French
Bizou- french bistro
Brazos Tacos- Austin-style tacos
Revolutionary Soup- solid lunch. soups, salads, sandwiches
Ace Biscuit & Barbecue- breakfast favorite
Bodo's Bagels- classic Charlottesville breakfast
Golf
Keswick Hall and Golf Club
Old Trail Golf Club
Birdwood Golf Course
Vineyards
Veritas Vineyards and Winery
Blenheim Vineyards
Jefferson Vineyards
King Family Vineyards
Pollak Vineyards
Stinson Vineyards

King Family Vineyards has free polo matches on Sundays.

Boar's Head Resort is great place to stay with good golf course and restaurant. Cville has many good restaurants, depends on what you want. Also, lots of vineyards and breweries that serve food as well.