Upscale and clean with a nice beach, not a kid or party place - looking for a casual beach retreat to go with my wife. Going in November for 5-7 nights.
some of my faves are Secrets The Vine Cancun, Zoëtry Paraiso de la Bonita Riviera Maya, Hyatt Zilara Cancun
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Laid back casual, think Isla Mujeres....
Moon Palace Golf & Spa Resort is the place for a holiday in Cancun
I agree with Kristy. Secrets The Vine Cancun or Secrets Playa Mujeres Golf & Spa Resort would be my first options. In these resorts, you find mainly couples from the late 20ies onwards.